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Здесь и далее: под «супружеством» мы также имеем в виду «партнерство».
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Здесь и далее, если не указано иное и не вытекает из смысла сказанного: под «партнером» также подразумевается «партнерша», под «супругом» – «супруга», под «он» – «она».
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Guldner, G.& Swensen, C. H. Time Spent Together and Relationship Quality: Long-Distance Relationships as a Test Case. Journal of Personal and Social Relationships. Abstract. https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1177/0265407595122010 (28.05.2021).
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Социальные сети Facebook и Instagram запрещены на территории Российской Федерации на основании осуществления экстремистской деятельности.
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Gordon, A. M., Impett, E. A., Kogan, A., Oveis, C., & Keltner, D. (2012). To have and to hold: Gratitude promotes relationship maintenance in intimate bonds. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 103(2), 257–274.
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Barton, A.W., Futris, T.G. & Nielsen, R.B. (2015), Linking financial distress to marital quality: The intermediary roles of demand/withdraw and spousal gratitude expressions. Personal Relationship, 22: 536–549.
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Algoe, S. B., & Zhaoyang, R. (2016). Positive psychology in context: Effects of expressing gratitude in ongoing relationships depend on perceptions of enactor responsiveness. The Journal of Positive Psychology, 11(4), 399–415.
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См.: Leong, L. T. J. (2012). Gratitude in an on-going dyadic relationship: The effects of feeling and expressing gratitude on marital satisfaction among married couples. 100–115.
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Gordon, Cameron & Arnette, Robyn & Smith, Rachel. (2011). Have you thanked your spouse today?: Felt and expressed gratitude among married couples. Personality and Individual Differences. 50. 339–343.
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Surijah, Edwin & Septiarly, Yashinta. (2016). Construct Validation of Five Love Languages. Anima Indonesian Psychological Journal. 31. 65–76.
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Перечень исследований по данному вопросу приведен на странице Института сильных сторон личности: https://www.viacharacter.org/research/findings/character-strengths-and – well-being-happiness
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Готтман, Дж «Мужчины и женщины с одной планеты». М. Эксмо, 2012. С. 212.
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Johnson, M. D., Galambos, N. L., & Anderson, J. R. Skip the dishes? Not so fast! Sex and housework revisited. Journal of Family Psychology. 2016, 30(2). С. 203–213.
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Социальные сети Facebook и Instagram запрещены на территории Российской Федерации на основании осуществления экстремистской деятельности.
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Качественным мы называем то время, которое человек полностью посвящает себе, партнеру или другому человеку, минимизируя отвлекающие факторы, и при этом испытывает широкую палитру позитивных эмоций.
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Berkman, L.F. and Syme, S. L. Social networks, host resistance, and mortality: A nine-year follow-up study of Alameda County residents. American Journal of Epidemiology. 1979., 109. С. 186–204.
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Ogolsky, B.G., Monk. J.K., Rice, T.M., Theisen, J.C. & Maniotes, C. R. Relationship Maintenance: A Review of Research on Romantic Relationships. Journal of Family Theory and Review. 2017. Volume 9. С. 275–306.
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Saginak, Kelli & Saginak, M. Balancing Work and Family: Equity, Gender, and Marital Satisfaction. – The Family Journal. 2005, 13. С. 162–166.
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May, C. For Couples, Success at Work is Affected by Partner’s Personality Researchers identify the personality trait that plays a positive role. 2015: https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/for-couples-success-at-work-is-affected-by-partner-s-personality/ (07.06.2021).
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Lavner, J. A., & Clark, M. A. Workload and Marital Satisfaction over Time: Testing Lagged Spillover and Crossover Effects during the Newlywed Years. Journal of vocational behavior. 101, 2017. С. 67–76
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См: Claessens, B. J. C. Perceived control of time: Time Management and personal effectiveness at work. A dissertation. Eindhoven: Technische Universiteit Eindhoven. 2004.
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Данный метод был проверен эмпирически в рамках магистерской работы Марии Хайнц «Позитивный подход к тайм-менеджменту: является ли он более эффективным в повышении благополучия и продуктивности в сравнении с традиционным тайм-менеджментом?» (Университет Восточного Лондона, Англия, май 2019 года).
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Flood, S. M., & Genadek, K. R. Time for Each Other: Work and Family Constraints Among Couples. Journal of marriage and the family. 2016, 78 (1). С. 144.
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Flood, S. M., & Genadek, K. R. Time for Each Other: Work and Family Constraints Among Couples. Journal of marriage and the family. 2016, 78(1). С. 156.
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Milek, Anne. Spending time with one’s partner: the interplay between dimensions of shared time, external stress, and couples’ relationship functioning. Dissertation. University of Zurich, Faculty of Science. 2015. P. 15. (https://www.zora.uzh.ch/id/eprint/113216/1/20152437.pdf).
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Berg, E. C., Trost, M., Schneider, I. E., & Allison, M. T. Dyadic exploration of the relationship of leisure satisfaction, leisure time, and gender to relationship satisfaction. Leisure Sciences. 2001. 23(1). С. 35–46.
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Gager, C. T., & Sanchez, L. Two as one?: Couples’ perceptions of time spent together, marital quality, and the risk of divorce. Journal of Family Issues. 2003, 24(1). С. 21–50.
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См. подробнее: Milek, Anne. Spending time with one’s partner: the interplay between dimensions of shared time, external stress, and couples’ relationship functioning. Dissertation. 2015. University of Zurich, Faculty of Science. С. 20–21 (https://www.zora.uzh.ch/id/eprint/113216/1/20152437.pdf).
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Gottman, J. & Silver, N. The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country’s Foremost Relationship Expert. Crown Publishers imprint (Three Rivers Press), 1999. С. 271.
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Ogolsky, B.G., Monk. J.K., Rice, T.M., Theisen, J.C. & Maniotes, C. R. Relationship Maintenance: A Review of Research on Romantic Relationships. Journal of Family Theory and Review. 2017, Volume 9. С. 275–306.
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Hogan, J. N., Crenshaw, A. O., Baucom, K. J. W., & Baucom, B. R. W. (2021). Time Spent Together in Intimate Relationships: Implications for Relationship Functioning. Contemporary family therapy, 43(3), 226–233
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Здесь и далее: Готтман, Джон. 8 важных свиданий. Как создать отношения на всю жизнь. Москва: Эксмо, 2019. 352 с.
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Более подробно о том, как можно проводить эксперименты, вы можете прочитать в книге Марии Хайнц и Екатерины Николаевой „Твой эксперимент. Сделай то, чего никогда не делал, и получи то, чего никогда не имел“ (Бомбора, 2022)
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Ungar, N., Michalowski, V., Baehring, S., Pauly, T., Gerstorf, D., Ashe, M., Madden, K. & Hoppmann, Ch.(2021) Joint Goals in Older Couples: Associations With Goal Progress, Allostatic Load, and Relationship Satisfaction. Frontiers in Psychology. 20 April.
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